How to survive and how to help your children
To start I turn to all the people silent in their pain, who are undergoing bullying or cyberbullying by their acquaintances, humiliation in public, written on walls, physical and psychological violence, threats, and cyberbullying that in recent years is becoming increasingly more dangerous. For these reasons, suicides have also increased, because the people in question feel lonely, angry, misunderstood, and the lack of communication with teachers and their parents also affects. This also depends on the school staff, who are often not adequate and complete. I would recommend putting in every school starting from infant school a psychologist who can monitor the first signs of suffering, which may depend on internal or external factors, I think that we need to make a real revolution to defend ourselves, request more attention and report problems of this type without being afraid, but before we get to this, let’s try to understand and enter the psychology of the bully so as not to feel completely helpless. At the base of anger and aggression there is always suffering, many times the basic bullies are victims and in order not to feel such they look for other victims to feel with power and control in hand, for them it is a toxic therapy, by hurting others they are able to amortize their suffering and are able to feel powerful rather than helpless in the face of suffering and pain.
In fact, there are two types of reactions:
The former are of people who contain pain within them or manage to find the voice of courage to share it if they are monitored well.
The latter are unable to code the pain they feel and feel the need to create it in order to no longer be afraid.
Very often in the lives of bullies, divorce, domestic violence, psychological violence by family or friends, loneliness and despair are at the root.
But this is not always the case, sometimes it simply starts from an individual insecurity that turns into security when they manage to make someone else feel worse than themselves.
It is a vicious circle that you need to know to start surviving this, to imagine these people as insecure people and not as monsters even if what they do is horrible.
Anyone who has come to this point of the article means that they really want to understand how to fight and change their life, the wounds of the heart hurt and it is difficult to forget them, I know this well and I know how easy it is to live in fear when everything is you have been torn to shreds, your reputation, your pride, your dignity.
Guys, what you have to do is find your inner voice to expect to be listened to in any way, through social media, with the school psychologist, with your teacher, with your parents, with a stranger, kids, talk and don’t stop, create communities through blogs, through social networks, become youtuber and talk about this by helping other people, you don’t have to stop, you have to be many and your voices together must echo.
Remember that your executioners have a complicated life behind them and they hurt you because they want to feed on your fear to defeat theirs, don’t allow anyone to feed on your fear, because no matter what they do, it matters why they do it and if you understand that at the base they are small and frightened despite appearances, you will understand that they cannot annihilate and kill you. They need help just like you, they have to work hard to understand the root of their anger and fear and they have to find the inner voice to be able to code it in the right way and not hurting others.
Start ignoring them, creating your communities to feel even stronger and less alone, remember that in the world there are many people who need you and who are also willing to listen to you and help you. YOU ARE NOT ALONE.
Arrange school meetings with psychologists who are experts in the field and invite everyone, even all parents, who need to understand and listen to your silent voices. Don’t give up, use everything in your hands to help each other and if you need advice you can comment on the post and I’ll get back to you with more articles. Also create hashtags on Instagram and publish your experiences with posts or videos. Insist and fight to put psychologists in schools, in all schools.
Guys you are not alone and you just have to find the courage, understanding that they are not immortal and powerful, but like you they suffer and can only hurt you if you allow it.
As for parents, your children do not need to speak to communicate suffering to you, so be understanding if they are aggressive and perpetually angry, be understanding if they are silent and isolated, they need you even if they don’t ask and you need to understand. what is behind their suffering because they HAVE AND WILL ALWAYS NEED YOU, I address both the parents of the bullies and the victims, but as we know they are both victims.
Let’s avoid tragedies and let’s not stop, let’s talk about it, because we have the strength of the word.